Tuesday, November 17, 2015

The Fallacy of the Alpha Male

Masculinity is having a renaissance. After several decades under the thumb of radical feminism and media denigration, men are finally digging in their heels and trying to be men again. It's a good sign, a turning point for men, but the effort is not without its perils.

There have been no leaders of men for several decades, and few media role models. John Wayne passed away years ago and his masculine characters left with him. Clint Eastwood's masculine, but woefully incomplete, nameless man of the spaghetti westerns has long been forgotten. There are no definitive guides to manhood anymore. Instead we have dozens of upstarts trying their best (and sometimes their worst) to establish themselves as leaders of the next generation of men. So far, the world of new masculinity has avoided a Lord of Flies scenario, in which chaos ensues due to the lack of solid leadership and role models. (The notable exception being the Red Pill movement and various reddit forums, which are nothing but isolated pockets of male chaos and insanity, only suitable for those wishing to study internet chaos. In all other cases, these groups are to avoided by aspiring men at all costs.) Without solid examples and leadership, masculinity still has a long road to establish itself once again.

Tuesday, September 8, 2015

On Being a Man - Step 1

I have been fascinated by the concepts of masculinity and manhood, probably because I've felt lacking in those traits.  I've struggled with being a man for a long time, because nobody ever taught me how to be one.  That's unsurprising, since American society has stopped valuing manhood and masculinity, and in some cases actually denigrate men for being men.  Yet, I aspire to achieve the role of an integrated man before I die.  That's OK, because with a little ingenuity I can find enough information to learn what I need to do.  I believe I've found the first step, and I'll share these steps with the blogosphere as I learn them.  Hell, maybe  I'll even write a book about it someday if I can make what I've learned work for me.  With that introduction, I present what I consider the first step in being a man:

Friday, July 10, 2015

12 Signs for Spotting a Misandrist

Women, especially feminists, love to bandy about the word "misogynist", that is, a term to designate someone who hates women.  To a radical feminist, every person with a Y-chromosome (every man) is a presumed misogynist by nature, evidence be damned.  (Fortunately, radical feminists are few and far between.) Regular feminists are less likely to be so presumptuous, and fortunately the regular feminists greatly outnumber the radical.

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A problem arises in that the radical feminists seem to get all the press.  Why?  Quite simple.  Radical feminists are exciting and unusual.  They do incredibly stupid stuff.  They get attention.  They get viewers on TV and page hits in the web.  Middle of the road feminists?  Not so much.  Middle of the road feminists are too intellectual and unexciting to get attention.  For that matter, you'll seldom see or hear the middle of the road people of any type on the news because, well, they're boring.  They're too normal.

The publicity these rare yet newsworthy radical feminists gets spills over to other areas.  Recently, even Psychology Today apparently needed more traffic to their site, so they got into the act and published a guide to 12 characteristics of a misogynist.  Apparently Psychology Today is less about psychology and more about click-bait on the internet.  I am waiting for their article called "One Weird Trick For a Brighter Disposition" written for the depressives of the world.

Oddly enough, as rare as the radical feminist is, there is one person that you hear even less about.  I'm wondering when the news outlets will cover these people.  These are the misandrists.  

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Everything a Guy Needs to Know About Dating a Feminist

In the March 2015 issue of Cosmopolitan magazine, the editors have graciously explained to men their 14 important points to know before dating a feminist. Of course, this is all from a woman's point of view. Let's face it; the chances of a man reading that article are pretty small, unless of course he is a self-misandristic shadow of a male seeking ways to please a woman.

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For the benefit of the few men who might be curious about this subject, I'll describe everything a man needs to know about dating a feminist.

Don't do it.

Of course it is possible, in the same sense that winning the lotto is possible, that you might accidentally find yourself on a rare date with a feminist. In that case, all you need to know is this:

Make her pay the bill.

That is everything you need to know.

Sunday, June 14, 2015

Life Lessons from TV Comedy

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One of the most important life lessons I learned came from watching sitcoms on television.  Surprising, right?  Who would believe that TV comedy can teach anything, other than how to write unoriginal, formulaic stories around forgettable characters?  Well, it can, but you need to add an ounce of thought from your own brain to get the message.  The message is actually fairly obvious but sometimes you don't really get it until it hits you in the face.  This message came to the fore front of my mind after watching an early episode of CBS's "The Odd Couple" with Matthew Perry.

Poor Matthew Perry can't seem to get a break. This is his fourth sitcom since ending Friends, and none of the others have been hits.  Frankly, I only remember the prior two, having completely forgotten Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip.  I rather liked Mr. Sunshine, although it was no work of comedic genius.  Similarly, Go On was entertaining if not inspired. Rather than fail one more time, Perry goes with stock formula comedy in The Odd Couple, but fails miserably at that too.  The Odd Couple is old hat, first appearing in 1965 as a stage play.  The basic plot involves two completely different people (Oscar, a slob and Felix, a obsessive neat freak) thrown together by circumstances, in this case, divorce.  Perry's version is the lowest common denominator of comedy, with simple plots, and requires almost no writing talent to create the stories.  It is exactly that lowest common denominator of comedy, of human behavior, that provides the important lesson.

Friday, April 3, 2015

The Lie of the Anti-PUA

I was a young engineer many years ago when I learned a lesson that has stuck with me over the years.   Unfortunately, nobody was teaching guys about women at the time, but the lesson applies to any industry, including the Pick Up Artistry (PUA) industry nowadays.

As a young engineer, the latest business and management buzzword was Total Quality Management, or TQM.  Well, not so much a buzzword, but sound business practices to reduce business costs and improve product quality.  I was in the thick of it, and I studied TQM and took the courses.  It was a new way of doing business, and if you weren't at least attempting TQM you were behind the times.  Soon everybody was a TQM consultant.  I even wrote a mini-paper on the subject and presented it at a symposium.  Not long after that, a strange thing happened.  Consultants started appearing who were anti-TQM and were willing to help you, for a generous fee of course, get TQM out of your organization and resist the new practices because TQM would "destroy your business".  That's right.  Sound business practices to reduce costs were bad news!  That's when I learned a very important lesson.  Whenever a new market becomes saturated, an anti-market will spring up to make money on the exact opposite principle.  You can bet your bottom dollar on it.

The same is true in the Pick Up Artistry business area.  Teaching men how to pickup women has become a huge industry, bringing in millions upon millions of dollars for the companies who have quality instructional products to sell to men, and even for companies with mediocre and downright shoddy products.  The market is saturated, so now the anti-market has sprung up; the anti-PUA instructional products.

Saturday, January 24, 2015

Relentless Focus

When I was growing up, I was never quite happy with my lot in life.  I was pretty sure I didn't know the secret to success, but I was also pretty sure there were people out there who did.  I became attracted to the early personal success gurus and the books they wrote.  I believe the very first personal success book I read was "Winning Through Intimidation" by Robert Ringer, the 1984 edition in paperback.  The title was a little shocking, but the advice was pretty solid.  Always negotiate from a position of strength, and if you don't have a position of strength, act as if you do. I also learned the three types of people in the business world you need to be aware of:  1) the sneaky liar who says he's on your side, but will stab you in the back the first chance he can make a profit by doing so;  2) the person who will stab you to make a profit, but is upfront about it and will do it to your face given you understand he's a competitor; and 3) the very rare person who makes his profit by seeing to it that you and everybody else under him can make their profit.  As you can see, this book was pretty influential to me.

I went on to get more and more books.  There were more Robert Ringer books, with catchy titles but solid advice, and even business oriented success books, like another highly influential book, Strategy of the Dolphin, by Lynch and Kordis.  This one modeled the world with an ocean analogy; there are carp, sharks and dolphins.  Carp are aware of little around them and are eaten by both sharks and dolphins.  Sharks know very little other than killing and eating carp; they are territorial and play a zero sum game.  Dolphins, on the other hand, will eat the carp, and are capable of killing sharks when necessary.  Dolphins play a non-zero sum game, and expand their territory as needed.

Again, this must have been pretty influential if I can still remember it.

You would think I'd be a millionaire playboy today with all this advice accumulated in my mind.  A veritable Tony Stark, minus the red and gold body suit of armored technology.

Obviously something was still missing.