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Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Sick and Angry? Me too.

It’s only a few days after the Harvey Weinstein revelations made big news and I made a huge mistake.  Yep, I went onto Facebook.  I was intrigued by some of these “Me too!” threads, so I read a few of them that looked interesting.  After reading some and replying to a couple, I realized how bad I was feeling; i was sick and angry, but probably not for the reasons you think.

Sure, I’m sick and angry to hear about these things happening in a supposedly advanced society.  

I’m sick and angry that these hate-filled people even exist and some have risen to prominence.

I’m sick and angry that other people have turned a blind eye to this behavior, especially when their personal fortunes are supported by those hate-filled deviant people.

All these reasons should go without saying, but, as a man, there are other reasons too.

I’m sick and angry that women don’t seem to be able to protect themselves.  When will I hear a story about a woman who took out her attacker?  I haven’t seen one since college.

I’m sick and angry that feminist agendas against men are already being pushed based on these events.

I’m sick and angry that people continue to insist there is a “rape culture” rather than recognizing that these behaviors are hate crimes and not a basis of ANY culture.

I’m sick and angry that misandrists are already attacking the male gender and denigrating all men for the behavior of a few hateful deviants.

I’m sick and angry that some men continue to believe they need to denigrate and emasculate themselves in apology for the few hateful deviants.

I’m sick and angry that the denigration of men in general will prevent anyone from teaching young men and boys proper masculine behavior, resulting in a cascade of more problems in the future.

I’m sick and angry of hearing about “toxic masculinity”, when these behaviors are far, far from being anything remotely masculine.

Finally, I’m sick and angry that I haven’t been able to take a dry wall saw and castrate any of the men who had attacked women I had known who could add to the “Me Too” list.

Sick and angry is not a feeling I want to nurture.  I think I’m going to take a break from all media for a while before I throw up.

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

The Masculinity Revelation


One of my ongoing endeavors has been studying and learning the aspects of masculinity.  I’m not the only one to do so.  Smarter men, and more prolific writers and bloggers than I have attempted to do the same.  I’ve never wanted to simply rehash the work of other people; I’ve wanted to add my own perspectives to the knowledge base.  

Masculinity is difficult to pin down, and intelligent discourse is even more difficult.  When it comes to masculinity, people hold tons of hidden assumptions, and hold many hidden agendas. A person needs to get past these assumptions and agendas to truly understand masculinity.  You can't really trust a definition provided by somebody with an agenda.  Instead, I believe a male needs to experience a process of learning what masculinity is for himself.  These are my efforts to do so, and I'm sharing them with you hoping you find them useful on your journey.

Saturday, June 17, 2017

Meme Culture

Do you have a question?  About anything?  From simple questions about cats to more complex queries on quantum mechanics, the answer exists out there, somewhere, on the internet. The internet has made information so easily available that complete and well thought answers to complicated questions can be communicated in gory detail just as easily as simple answers.  Detailed explanations, full length articles and essays can be transmitted easily straight to anyone's smart phone!  Information has become democratized and freely available.

That very same internet has inundated us with so much information and junk that we can’t begin to read those articles.  We can’t find anything anymore; there’s just too much to sift through.

Saturday, April 22, 2017

Return of the Red Pill

Warning: Explicit Content

If you’re a Red Pill kind of guy, then you know all about what I’m going describe.  This article is not for you.  This article is written for any guy who is new to the Red Pill, or has heard about it and is curious. There are some things the Red Pill guys know, but the new guys probably don’t get.

A while back I wrote an article on The Red Pill, a theory promulgated by certain males who inhabit /r/TheRedPill on reddit.com.  I was not very kind to these guys or their theory at the time.  I feel a little guilty about that.  Perhaps I was too quick to judge.  Perhaps I was suffering from confirmation bias at the time, that is, I was looking for faults therefore I found them.

Since I was feeling guilty for a hasty judgement, I felt I should go back and look a little deeper into the Red Pill and see if I was off base. I spent 2 weeks reviewing and participating on /r/TheRedPill and getting to know it.  Was I originally too harsh?  You be the judge. 

Sunday, March 19, 2017

I Remember When I Lost My Mind

A Lesson in Cognitive Dissonance

Good music is hard to find nowadays.  Most pop music is formulaic and repetitive It might have a good beat, or be danceable, but it’s nothing special. A song that’s memorable, or touches you in some way, is a rare find nowadays.  A few years back I found one that resonated with me.  The song is Crazy, not by Patsy Cline, but by Gnarls Barkley, as written by Cee Lo Green.  I know crazy when I see it, even if I only see it in hindsight. Let's look at the lyrics.

I remember when,
I remember, I remember when I lost my mind
There was something so pleasant about that place
Even your emotions have an echo in so much space

I do remember when I lost my mind.  I think there were 4 times in my life I went crazy, and not in a good way.  Each one had a name: Vicki, Robin, Lora, and Rita.  For a musical artist like Cee Lo, crazy might be a pleasant place for creativity, but my emotions in that crazy space were very unpleasant.

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Five Important Lessons from "The Year of Better Decisions"

Last year around this time, I designated 2016 to be “The Year of Better Decisions”.   The general principle was to stop making New Year’s resolutions, to stop making S.M.A.R.T. goals, and to stop setting deadlines for accomplishments.  In other words, avoiding all the typical methods of improving one’s life at the start of the year.  Did it work?

Well, perhaps.  I am definitely not worse off after 2016.  In fact, I’ve learned a few new things and have taken some new actions to improve my life.  I think the lessons are the most valuable things i should share.

Choosing the better decision all the time is definitely a good idea and it worked well for me, when I used the technique.  There are several problems that need to be addressed in order to make the system work. The first is straightforward. 

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Real Men Don't Walk This Way

As I post this, Donald Trump has been President of the United States for 14 days, and the United States is still holding together.

I’ve had a bunch of Facebook friends talk about participating in some of the protest marches around the country after the inauguration.  Some of the most popular ones are the women’s marches around the country.  I think I’d like to get a pussy hat just for the novelty of it, but I have no interest in walking with the women.  Sorry, I don’t walk that way. Other men should think twice about walking too.

No, it’s not because I don’t support the women.  I do empathize with their causes.  (In my more naive days, I once offered to publicly speak against Rush Limbaugh’s misogynistic behavior.)  And it’s not because my knees are slowly going out and I couldn’t tolerate the walk.  Heaven knows I could use the exercise.  No, the reason I’m not interested in walking is I am, after all, male, not female.

You see, I don’t believe men should be participating in women’s causes except under a few circumstances.  Let me explain.