Saturday, January 24, 2015

Relentless Focus

When I was growing up, I was never quite happy with my lot in life.  I was pretty sure I didn't know the secret to success, but I was also pretty sure there were people out there who did.  I became attracted to the early personal success gurus and the books they wrote.  I believe the very first personal success book I read was "Winning Through Intimidation" by Robert Ringer, the 1984 edition in paperback.  The title was a little shocking, but the advice was pretty solid.  Always negotiate from a position of strength, and if you don't have a position of strength, act as if you do. I also learned the three types of people in the business world you need to be aware of:  1) the sneaky liar who says he's on your side, but will stab you in the back the first chance he can make a profit by doing so;  2) the person who will stab you to make a profit, but is upfront about it and will do it to your face given you understand he's a competitor; and 3) the very rare person who makes his profit by seeing to it that you and everybody else under him can make their profit.  As you can see, this book was pretty influential to me.

I went on to get more and more books.  There were more Robert Ringer books, with catchy titles but solid advice, and even business oriented success books, like another highly influential book, Strategy of the Dolphin, by Lynch and Kordis.  This one modeled the world with an ocean analogy; there are carp, sharks and dolphins.  Carp are aware of little around them and are eaten by both sharks and dolphins.  Sharks know very little other than killing and eating carp; they are territorial and play a zero sum game.  Dolphins, on the other hand, will eat the carp, and are capable of killing sharks when necessary.  Dolphins play a non-zero sum game, and expand their territory as needed.

Again, this must have been pretty influential if I can still remember it.

You would think I'd be a millionaire playboy today with all this advice accumulated in my mind.  A veritable Tony Stark, minus the red and gold body suit of armored technology.

Obviously something was still missing.

Sunday, January 4, 2015

I'm Glad my Girlfriend Cheated On Me - Here's Why

We seldom get to hear both sides of a story.  Sometimes we need to imagine what the other side has to say, or even speculate on what they should have said.  Here's how I think the imaginary "Justin" should have responded to a recent popular post on http://thoughtcatalog.com.  

Hi, my name is Justin and my girlfriend cheated on me.  Although this might sounds like an introduction at a 12 Step program, it's really an explanation of how my girlfriend's one night stand improved my love life and became the best thing to ever happen to me.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

6 Things Modern Men Need to Know About Rape Culture

(updated from a prior version to test the appeal of different formats)

If you are a man, you've probably heard about "rape culture".  I know that sounds terrible, even terrifying in fact, but don't worry.  Well, maybe worry a little.  Feminists have assembled a jumbled set of attitudes and behaviors and labeled them "rape culture" in order to justify their attacks on men, as well as to protect their own psyches, as we shall see later.

Now you're probably thinking, "Hey, I'm not a rapist! Why would anybody associated me with rape culture?"  The answer is easy; feminists and misandrists associate every man with rape culture.   Rape culture is a gender stereotype, a racial prejudice against the race of men, sexual discrimination of the worst kind because it is both ignored for what it is, and encouraged by a few women and self-hating males alike.  Here's what the modern man needs to know about rape culture.

Friday, November 28, 2014

Speech: Living La Vida Caveman

This year (2014) I entered the Toastmasters Humorous Speech Contest in my division a little late.  I jumped in for my home club at the last minute in the area contest, and took this speech to the division contest.
I had thought that if GEICO could make cavemen funny, then the Paleo Diet, which is based on caveman behavior, should be funny too.  OK, maybe not funny, but at least mildly humorous.


For those of you unfamiliar with the term charcuterie, here's a tidbit from Wikipedia.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Don't Take the Red Pill!

Recently, the Red Pill Movement has gained some attention from the press as a men's rights movement, so it's worth taking a look at the movement.  The principle behind the movement is that men need to see the world for what the world really is, not the way men have been indoctrinated by society, gender roles, feminism, media and even marketing. On the surface it sounds like a good principle, but I think it worth setting some things straight.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

A Gentleman's Guide to Rape Culture, the Politically Incorrect Version.

If you are a man, you've probably heard about "rape culture".  I know that sounds terrible, even terrifying in fact, but don't worry.  Well, maybe worry a little.  Feminists have assembled a jumbled set of attitudes and behaviors and labeled them "rape culture" in order to justify their attacks on men, as well as to protect their own psyches, as we shall see later.

Now you're probably thinking, "Hey, I'm not a rapist! Why would anybody associated me with rape culture?"  The answer is easy; feminists and misandrists associate every man with rape culture.   Rape culture is a gender stereotype, a racial prejudice against the race of men, sexual discrimination of the worst kind because it is both ignored for what it is, and encouraged by a few women and self-hating males alike.

Sunday, March 9, 2014

Reframing Money

Sometimes in life things just don't work the way we expect them to, and we don't understand why.  We either don't get the results we want or think we should get better results.  Maybe we feel we should be making more money, or getting better results in the gym, or any of a myriad of situations we might be unsatisfied with.  Of course, we believe our knowledge and actions are right, but confirmation bias, the tendency to find evidence that supports our beliefs and ignore evidence to the contrary, throws a wrench in any method of proof that we are doing the right thing.  We need to find a way to take a different look at things; we need to reframe our thoughts on the situation to come at the problem from a different direction.  After all, Albert Einstein is credited with the saying, "We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them."

Money problems are one of the more common situations people are facing in this economy.  If you're having trouble making more money, paying off bills, or meeting your budget, maybe you need to reframe your thoughts about money.  Recently I read an interesting posting on Ramit Sethi's Brain Trust about reframing our thoughts about money, and I wanted to share the implications of that way of thinking.  I found the new way of thinking about money very enlightening.  

For many people, their income is simply a set of numbers direct deposited to their checking accounts by the company they work for.  Buying stuff is just a way of adding and subtracting numbers in a ledger.