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Tuesday, November 12, 2013

A Dose of Reality for Both Genders

In an earlier article, I compared a view of gender issues, as written by a woman, with gender issues if that same article had been written by a man.


Let’s face reality now.  No men's movement is actually concerned about women's issues, nor are any women's movements addressing men's concerns.  The claim that either addresses the needs of the other is disingenuous.  The reason is quite simple.  Both men and women have tried to define masculinity and femininity as a dualism, as if the universe of human genders consists of two indivisible opposites, and all humanity can be constructed from the two. Some believe there is masculinity, and there is femininity, and you're either masculine or feminine. Period.  Masculinity and femininity are treated as if they are the matter and antimatter of human relations, absolute opposites, always at odds, and always negating each other. Neither feminism nor masculism can ever address anything other than their own goals while the concept of dualism between the genders exists.   You see, the concept of dualism in genders is utterly wrong. 


Saturday, May 18, 2013

Bruno Mars is Really From Venus

If I were asked to think of names that sound truly manly, the list might include names like Silas, Burke, Leroy, Zachary, Isaac, among others.  A rugged name like Bruno might even be near the top of the list.  Bruno might be a good name for a bouncer at the local bar.  "Look out guys, settle down, here comes Bruno."  Couple a manly first name with a last name shared with the God of war, Mars, and you would think you've got a manly man.  For instance, maybe Bruno Mars.  Jim Croce could write a song about "Bad, bad, Bruno Mars, baddest man with the fastest car" or something like that.  Alas, Jim would probably roll over in his grave to hear Bruno Mars associated with Leroy Brown.  Instead of living up to his name and being a bad ass like Leroy, Bruno Mars instead writes sissified songs.  I'm sure he makes a lot of money doing it, (kudos on that, Bruno!) but I don't like the idea of romance being depicted in the media the way Bruno seems to think it works.

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Feminism vs. masculism - are they the same?


( you might also be interested in this: A Dose of Reality for Both Genders)

A while ago, a feminist web site, jezebel.com, posted an article in defense of feminism by Lindy West. There’s nothing wrong with that, but I don’t think feminism needs any particular defense.  The article prompted some discussion on a men’s site when one poster said he thought he understood feminism better now.  (Really? On a men’s forum?)

It occurred to me that if the article supposedly explained feminism so well, it should be able to do the same for masculism also, just by flipping the gender references.  So I rewrote it to defend masculism.  My changes are in color.  Is it really a cogent argument for either side?  You be the judge.

If I Admit Your Argument for Feminism is Cogent, Will You Admit the Same Argument Works for Masculism?


Okay, so maybe you are a woman. Maybe you haven't had the easiest ride in life—maybe you grew up in poverty; you've experienced death, neglect, and despair; you hate your job, your car, your body. Maybe somebody (or multiple somebodies) pulverized your heart, or maybe you've never even been loved enough to know what a broken heart feels like. Maybe shit started out unfair and became irreparable and you never deserved any of this. Maybe everything looks fine on paper, but you're just unhappy and you don't know why. These are human problems and other human beings feel for you very deeply. It is hard to be a human. I am so sorry.

However...